Fresh Idea Friday, Jan 28th Edition-The Importance of Asking for Help

This week's idea is about the importance of asking for help, AND why we tend to shy away from doing so.

NO ONE does it alone. Would you agree? Whatever IT is.

We all have help, or NEED help somedays.

AND, we often tend to have a hard time asking for what we need.

Why is that, do you think?

The regular culprits:
1) Comparison. "If she can manage all of these things, so can I". Sound familiar? We often see someone that has accomplished what we're after, and they do it in such a seemingly effortless way, that we assume we should be able to as well. Do you know how they make it look so easy? THEY HAVE HELP!

2) We are "shoulding" all over ourselves. Does "I should know how to do this already" sound familiar? Well, the truth is, we don't know how to do something until we've done it or spent time learning it. STOP BEING SO HARD ON YOURSELF!

3) Are you ready....THIS is a biggie! "People will find out I don't know what I am doing if I ask for help". Hello, imposter syndrome. This one....you might not want to hear, but it is driven by our ego. Having to admit you don't know how to do something, can be embarrassing, right?

But, consider the alternative of sitting, wasting time trying to figure something out when you could just ask.

Case in point, I am pretty good with techy stuff, BUT I couldn't for the life of me figure out one thing to get posting on Instagram Reels (a video function on IG that is great for promo and teaching). I googled and that didn't help. So I sought an expert....my 16 year old daughter.

Was there a possibility I'd be laughed at? Yes. And honestly, WHO CARES. This is why I say that it is ego driven. If we are in our own way so much that we won't risk admitting we need help, we're going to stay stuck.

My daughter very graciously helped me, and you know what happened? Her confidence grew. She felt so happy to be able to help and teach her mom.

This brings me to the view about asking for help that I adore, from the brilliant mind of Jay Shetty:
"My limitations make space for the gifts of other people."

You are an expert in many things, but not all. And when you give yourself permission to ask for help, you create space for others to share their gifts.

Stay well friends, and ask for help.
-Deanna