NOT for one more day……

Here we are. At the end of one of the most challenging years most have faced. How are you? Are you managing ok? Have you reached out for support if you’re struggling? Please do….this world is a better place with you in it.

And, I know there are a number of people that are thriving this year as well. It seems that we are living in extremes, with one extreme being that people are overwhelmed and so busy that it is hard for them to keep up, or the other end, people are feeling so incredibly bored that they’re struggling to keep themselves engaged. Both of these are hard. I see you and feel for you. And for people that are moving through this year well, I am delighted for you!

The point is, this year for most people, regardless of where you are in the above-mentioned places, has tossed all that we knew out the window. Our values have been re-vamped or solidified. For many, our directions are more clear. For others, the view has never been muddier.

Here is what I am concerned about…..the narrative I am hearing from so many is: “Thank goodness! 2020 is nearly over! Yeah! It’s almost a new year! I can’t wait!”. And yes, turning the page on our calendars does feel like a fresh start doesn’t it? BUT…….if you have identified a list of things that you don’t value any longer, and you’ve solidified what truly matters to you, and you’re ready for change….REAL change that is, what actions are you taking to ensure this happens?

So many people are assuming that once the calendar has changed, the situations they are unhappy with will change as well. Well, if nothing but a piece of paper has changed, how does that make any sense? I know I may sound like a downer here, but these questions are quite the opposite. I want you to stop settling, for the job or relationship etc that you know you don’t really want. I know people want change, but without action, you’re bound to repeat 2020. So……if you’re waiting for a “sign”….here it is. The fact that you’re still reading this means that something is resonating with you (or that you’re my parents…thanks mom and dad for reading :) ). But honestly, you’re still here reading….you want different. Yes? Well here is a nudge to get you to move towards different. Set some goals and create an action plan that is different, that feels different, that will create REAL change.

Sounds good right? The trouble is, these goals, this action, this change…..feels scary, right? And if the goal you’ve set doesn’t make you a little uncomfortable…..set a bigger goal. The thing is folks, our time here is so short-what are you waiting for? What is holding you back? Fear…..of judgement, fear of failure, fear of success (yes that’s a thing). What’s the theme here?

FEAR. Are you waiting to be brave? Waiting to magically find some courage? Well, let me leave you with a quote the amazing community I am a part of hears often from one of our leaders: “Courage is not the absence of fear. It is taking action in the presence of fear.” (ask me more about this community-this is a group setting big, hairy, audacious goals for 2021!).

Please don’t spend one more year playing small and holding yourself back. So many amazing things already live inside of you. It is time to unleash your awesomeness.

If you’re unsure of the first or next step, please reach out……unleashing your awesome, overcoming fear, getting the heck out of your own way….that’s the magic of coaching and that is what I do.

Wishing you kindness, good health and all that you’re after in 2021,

Deanna