Feeling Harried this Holiday Season?
OF COURSE! is what I can imagine being the answer from some of you….so much so that even taking time to read this is feeling like a stretch. Thank you for taking a moment to read.
I will keep it short. Have you ever considered that the reason you’re feeling so overwhelmed stems from having perfectionist ideas about this time of year?
It would be completely understandable, since everywhere we look, people have “perfect” holiday decor, and photos, with many Pinterest-worthy shots. You may be saying, “Well duh, of course that’s why!”. And you may wonder “How can I overcome being a perfectionist"?”
Three things to consider, and then you can get outta here and back to your chaos, BUT hopefully, with a new thought or two in mind.
1) What is the root of perfectionism? Multi-layer for sure, but often it’s that external pressure from others. WHO may have, unintentionally, put this idea in your head? Your partner, your mom, your brother? Ask yourself what YOU want. Here’s the way I look at it. If there is an area in someone’s life that looks picture-perfect, another area is probably a mess. We’re all human.
2) Consider the impact of perfectionism. Often we stop caring for our health and wellness when in the pursuit of perfection. It also can get in the way of other things that we want to be doing. If left unchecked long enough, it can start to impact self-esteem and self-worth.
3) So, back to your other possible question, “How do I overcome perfectionism?”
-recognize the tendency, with curiosity. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Just notice.
-ask yourself what you’re sacrificing to pursue this unattainable perfection. Are you really willing to give that up?
-re-evaluate the standard you’re holding yourself to. Can ANYONE actually do what you think you need to?
-get a coach. Overcoming perfectionism can be tricky on your own.
-perfectionism can actually be a trauma response. If that may be the case for you, consider connecting with a therapist to help assist you in processing that.
Your true people will remember the laughter and joy, not whether your baseboards were spotless.
Cheering you on and wishing you a wonderful holiday season,
Deanna